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Guidance with uncomfortable feelings to name, process & release them simply
GROW YOUR EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
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This app is a guided meditation. Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â
It teaches you what to do with a negative feeling other than avoid it, evade it, run away from it with distractions like food, drink, smoke, business, shopping, etc. Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â
When it comes to a bad emotion, the mentally healthy response is process, process, process. This is a thought exercise. It is to be done as a reflection upon a feeling, sitting still. Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â
The guidance of the app is the process of answering questions. It is best to do alone in a quiet place where your thinking will be undisturbed. You may even want to close your eyes as you go through each question, as you reflect upon your answers. Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â
The goal is to reach some understanding about the feeling that you had that bothered you, that you didn't know what to do with. When you reach this clarity, you're done with part 2 and can finish with part 3, which is the end of this exercise. There you will have a space to write about the experience of your reflections. It is not meant to be kept like a journal, but released, like what you do with a feeling once you've processed it. Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â
This exercise is a model of what to do with bad feelings to maintain good mental health, by knowing how to stay in the moment and up-to-date with them. Being in the now is where to be authentic. It is where your personal growth, emotional intelligence and maturity are possible to develop.
FEELING YOUR FEELINGS IS IMPORTANT
Helping You Get Mentally Healthy
BASICS - PSYCH 101
For you to read if you're curious about the basic principles of Psychology "in a nutshell"
To read more about Basic Psychology, please go to "FAQ" at the top of the page
USE THIS APP EVERY TIME YOU ARE UNCLEAR ABOUT WHAT YOU'RE FEELING
Repeat Step 2 until you get clarity, then finish with a journal entry. Since the purpose of this app is to let go of confusion and get back into the moment where our lives are lived, your journal entry will only remain in your app space for one week.
As you journal this experience, you become ready to release that distress & re-enter present time, or to express that feeling to someone who was involved in its coming up in you, if appropriate to do so.
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FOLLOW THE STEPS: 1 - 2 - 3
Taking Care of Your Inner Self and thus also your relationships
1. Name It
Find the 1 word that locates the bothersome, puzzling or distressing feeling that has you stuck. 1st guess which of the 5 categories this distress is in: Fear, Hurt, Anger, Guilt/Shame or Depression. These are the 5 categories/types of all negative feelings. Then go to 2.
2. Process It
Answer as many of the questions as you need to until you reach a place of knowing about this uncomfortable feeling. Sit still, staying with it, answering Q's 'til you know it more clearly. Then do 3.
3. Release It
Write your experience. Conclude with a statement of gratitude, a final sentence about what you appreciate about your life.
Remember the basic rule of good mental health: "The measure of good mental health = the least amount of time that it takes for you to tell the person who hurt you that they hurt you & equals the most emotional health you'll maintain."
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THIS APP IS NOT LIVE COUNSELING...      IT IS TO HELP YOU MATURE EMOTIONALLY.
If clarity doesn't come up after answering the questions in Part 2 of the App, you may need to seek a Therapist
The measure of good mental health = the least amount of time that it takes for you to tell the person who hurt you that they hurt you. This practice maintains good emotional health.
EMOTIONAL MATURITY is freedom from emotional issues of your past.
This freedom allows you to respond honestly to events in the present without interference from prejudices from the past.
It is the result of dealing with life's upsets as they occur instead of avoiding or evading, & otherwise defending against feeling the pain of them.
Acceptance of a previously concealed truth opens the way for being in the moment.
If you don’t understand the feelings beneath your actions, you don’t truly understand yourself at all.
EMOTIONAL MATURITY frees you of insecurities from the past, allows you to be able to focus on the present, thus better able to decide what’s best for you.
EMOTIONAL FREEDOM results from EMOTIONAL MATURITY which is the natural feeling state of the evolved, emotionally mature person.
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